Al-Bukhari on Taking Care of Daughters and Young Girls, and Being Kind to them

Abu Amina Elias | October 11, 2012

By Abu Amina Elias for FaithinAllah.org

Al-Bukhari recorded in Al-Adab Al-Mufrad:

Uqbah ibn Amir reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said:

مَنْ كَانَ لَهُ ثَلاَثُ بَنَاتٍ وَصَبَرَ عَلَيْهِنَّ وَكَسَاهُنَّ مِنْ جِدَتِهِ كُنَّ لَهُ حِجَابًا مِنَ النَّارِ

Whoever has three daughters and he is patient with them, he clothes them from his wealth; then they will be a shield for him from the Hellfire.

Ibn Abbas reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said:

مَا مِنْ مُسْلِمٍ تُدْرِكُهُ ابْنَتَانِ فَيُحْسِنُ صُحْبَتَهُمَا إِلاَّ أَدْخَلَتَاهُ الْجَنَّةَ

There is no Muslim who has two daughters and he cares for them well except that he will enter Paradise.

Jabir ibn Abdullah reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said:

مَنْ كَانَ لَهُ ثَلاَثُ بَنَاتٍ يُؤْوِيهِنَّ وَيَكْفِيهِنَّ وَيَرْحَمُهُنَّ فَقَدْ وَجَبَتْ لَهُ الْجَنَّةُ الْبَتَّةَ

Whoever has three daughters and he provides for them, clothes them, and is merciful to them; then he will enter Paradise.

A man said, “And two daughters, Messenger of Allah?” He said:

وَثِنْتَيْنِ

And two.

Abu Sa’id al-Khudri reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said:

لاَ يَكُونُ لأَحَدٍ ثَلاَثُ بَنَاتٍ أَوْ ثَلاَثُ أَخَوَاتٍ فَيُحْسِنُ إِلَيْهِنَّ إِلاَّ دَخَلَ الْجَنَّةَ

There is no one who has three daughters or three sisters and he is good to them except that he will enter Paradise.

Musa ibn ‘Ali reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said:

أَلاَ أَدُلُّكَ عَلَى أَعْظَمِ الصَّدَقَةِ

Shall I tell you about the greatest charity?

He said, “Of course, O Messenger of Allah.” He said:

ابْنَتُكَ مَرْدُودَةٌ إِلَيْكَ لَيْسَ لَهَا كَاسِبٌ غَيْرُكَ

To provide for your daughter when she is returned to you and you are her sole source of provision.

Al-Miqdam ibn Ma’dikarib reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said:

مَا أَطْعَمْتَ نَفْسَكَ فَهُوَ لَكَ صَدَقَةٌ وَمَا أَطْعَمْتَ وَلَدَكَ فَهُوَ لَكَ صَدَقَةٌ وَمَا أَطْعَمْتَ زَوْجَكَ فَهُوَ لَكَ صَدَقَةٌ وَمَا أَطْعَمْتَ خَادِمَكَ فَهُوَ لَكَ صَدَقَةٌ

What you feed yourself is charity for you; what you feed your child is charity for you; what you feed your wife is charity is for you; what you feed your servant is charity for you.

It is reported that there was a man who had daughters and he was in the presence of Ibn Umar when he wished that his daughters were dead. Ibn Umar became angry and he said: